The Power of Positivity: Overcoming Hurtful Words #24

Deborah
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Welcome, everybody, to another episode of DiabeticReal. And I am Deborah, your host. You know, something happened today, and I will get to that in a moment.

But I got to thinking that, you know, it's not just diabetes or whatever you may be facing in the physical realm that we face every day. There's also the emotional stability, there's the mental stability, the psychological.

In other words, the physical is easy to reach out, touch whatever it is. It's not just what we can touch our stomach or headache or that sort of a thing.

It's also what's going on in our mind, how we feel, how we look at the world, the philosophical, the psychological. And something happened today. I got to thinking about that, and we do need to make sure that we are healthy in that area.

I should know that I'm one class away from being a doctor in psychology, so definitely something I think about a lot. And lately I've been doing TikTok LIVE, just another endeavor that I do, in addition to all the other things that I do in life. And I had.

I don't want to pick on a particular people group that were doing it, but some, I will say it, were some gentlemen that.

I don't even know if I should use the word gentlemen, but some people were coming on and saying some not nice words, some very not nice words, as in racial slurs. I shut that down right away and I said, that is not allowed on my TikTok LIVE.

Not only is it against the TikTok rules and community guidelines because TikTok wants a safe environment, but it's against my rules. I do not allow racial slurs on my TikTok LIVE. I do not allow racial slurs in my house or around me.

That is just unkind, but they're also just saying unkind things in general. And I said, no, that's not allowed. Now, this is a case where I was allowing them to come LIVE with me and chat with me on the TikTok LIVE.

So as I said, if you're going to behave that way, you basically give up your privileges. That's how it works. If you're going to say those kind of things, I could get banned.

So if you're going to do that, nope, you're not LIVE with me anymore. I mean, I gave some. When it came to the not nice language, like telling other people to be quiet or calling them just not nice names, the.

The other not nice. The kind of generalized not nice. I'm not talking about the racial slurs here. That one. I said, okay, you've got one warning.

And then I said, now you're booted. I was trying to give them as many chances as I could. And pretty soon I had person after person asking to go LIVE with me.

And they would come on and start saying seriously naughty things. Obviously, I'm not going to repeat them on the podcast. And so it's like, oh, gave you a chance. Now you're booted. Oop. Gave you a chance.

Now you're booted. And then that person would invite 25 of their friends to come do the same thing. I mean, this was exponential.

And I got to thinking, you know, they're doing this to be unsettling to me, and it's not working. Why is it not working? Because I decided to not let it work on me. I decided to be a positive person, a happy person, and a calm person in spite of it.

These people, and I say these people because it seemed that they knew each other. They were calling each other by what seemed to be their first name, and I was hearing them laugh in the background.

I don't know if they're all hanging out in the same place, whatever, but it seemed like they all knew each other. Anyway, they were calling me ugly. And then I had devoted fans that were saying, oh, she's not ugly. We love her. And this kind of thing.

Which it's lovely to have your devoted fans saying that. Anyway, they were calling me ugly, and that they didn't like my hair, they didn't like my glasses.

And I was saying things like, hey, I agree with you. I don't like these glasses either. Thank you for sharing your opinion. I was not letting it get to me.

And it occurred to me, these people don't seem to be very happy if this is how they interact with other people like me who they don't know. They don't know me from Adam. Well. Or they don't know me from Eve.

They don't seem to be very happy, or they haven't learned how to interact with other people, if that's how they interact. So I challenged them and I said, I challenge you to go out this week and find out what it is that makes you happy.

Because, see, the thing is, they didn't know me well enough to insult me. I really thought. Yeah, I sat there and thought about this, and I thought, they honestly don't know me.

You guys know me better listening to this podcast. And my guess is that if you really don't like me, you probably aren't listening to the podcast anymore.

I know I wouldn't If I didn't like somebody, I wouldn't listen to their podcast.

So for someone to listen or watch me on LIVE for two seconds and then all of a sudden say, I don't like you, then excuse me, but why are you still hanging out there? I actually really feel sorry for them that that is what they do to try to find enjoyment because it didn't work on me.

So then I asked myself, is this throwing other people? Is this what throws you? If somebody came and said, I don't like you, you're ugly, is this going to throw you?

And my challenge to you is, don't let it throw you. Because think about it. How could somebody know you enough to say, I don't like you, you're ugly. Now those are nasty words.

Those are downright nasty words. And nobody should ever be told that, ever. I think that's very unkind.

But if someone just meets you and says that, that's a problem with the person saying it, isn't it? It's not a problem with you. Okay, so maybe you didn't comb your hair one day. Yeah. All right, so next time comb your hair.

But that is not a reason to say you're ugly. I really think the beauty is the person inside. It's not about whether you combed your hair or not. And by the way, I did. I was wearing my blue wig.

So, okay, hair is not the issue. But I did comb my hair under the wig. Okay, but that's not what we're just discussing here.

But if someone's saying that to you, they haven't given it enough time to know you. So don't let it go deep enough in who you are to affect you. Does that make sense?

Don't let people toss you to the ground just because they themselves are mean-hearted and have not figured out how to find joy in their LIVEs. You, my friend, keep your joy, keep your happiness, keep your value that you have found. I value you. I know you have value and I love you.

This is Deborah E from DiabeticReal. You have a great week and we'll see you in the next episode of DiabeticReal.